Where was I? Oh yes, boarding a plane in Myrtle Beach.
The teenage gentleman sitting in front of me has his seat reclined before I got to mine, so it was a bit uncomfortable, especially since everything I had with me was under his seat. I was a little miffed at his obvious lack of courtesy (it’s a 2 hour plane ride! Geez!). I ignored all this by reading my current book, Walden, by Henry David Thoreau. When I got up to let my seatmate out, he saw the book in my hand and said, “Thoreau. Nice.” with a head bob of approval. It made me smile and completely forget he was more in my aisle than his.
Once on the terra firma of Illinois, my mom met me at the airport as we headed back to the old homestead. We had big dinner of steak and potatoes complete with my entire family plus future brother-in-law and my “aunt” who is really an old family friend. Even better? After dinner my sister showed me how to correctly apply eye make up and gave me a bunch of make up supplies! Wow! I’ve been experimenting with eye color and technique and am so thankful she showed me the ropes. I had been correcting her papers for college (my sister: “Was there a lot of mistakes?” me: ::head hits wall::) and after the 1st one with literately line by line corrections, her writing improved to just polishing what she had written. I even asked her, “Where have you been all my life?” It’s so weird we’re close now that there are 5 states between us, but when we lived near each other we rarely spoke.
Mom and I left the house at 5am the next morning. Everything went fine until we got here. And that’s when the trouble began.
Afew miles over zee boarder, there’s a new casino. I’ve only been to casino once and I was 19….so, needless to say, at 0630, we were seated at slot machines. And losing. I highly suggest hitting up Four Winds Casino – it was quite the nifty place. I had no idea what I was doing, so some of it was lack of experience; some of it was sheer bad luck. Next time, Gadget, next time! When all was said and done, I lost $15. I’m a bad influence.
We stopped in Paw Paw for coffee at That Coffee Place, which was across the street from St. Julien Winery. OMG. Michigan wine rocks. I bought some for the General! Their Blue Heron wine goes nicely with his tattoo of his totem.
Our 1st planned adventure was the Detroit Public Library special collections downtown for some genealogy research. I didn’t hit the jackpot, but I was more successful at the library than I was at the casino (such is the life of a former honor student, eh?). I found some more leads, figured out who some people where, and now I have a few more boxes filled out on the tree. And I know which church they attended.
After staying the night at a 4 star hotel (my mom is an anti-camper), we headed up north for the thumb portion of our tour to Port Austin. This was the place my family vacationed year after year when we were kids. It seems so small now, after walking around downtown. I guess I’ve seen more of the world since I was 17. I bought a mood ring while I was there. Ah, the simple joy of being a kid for a moment again. This place is especially important to me on my spiritual journey: I accepted Christ here in July 1998.
We headed for the old cottage on Lake Huron to meet up with my second cousin, Austin, who had just lost his wife. It was so good to see him again. We headed out the the lake, sat around talking, and eventually headed out to dinner in the sleep small town of Pigeon.
It really made me homesick. I miss the small farm towns. It was so wonderful, I wish I could have bottled it up to relive it every so often. I love my ocean, but I found my heart longing for the homeland and snow accumulation. We ate at the Main Street Cafe and Bakery – I had sauteed perch. I love me some perch. You can’t get it down south. For desert, their chocolate cream pie was out of this world. Wow. We came back to the cottage for wine and more laughter. It was a good time. The weirdest part? “Austin, you have a message,” I said as his answering machine was blinking. “I do? Oh,” he said. “I think I know who it is.” Sure enough, it was an old message from Bea, his dead wife, letting him know where she heard the best fishing spots were that morning. And to call her once he made it up to the cottage so she wouldn’t worry. 54 years of marriage and they were the best of friends. I can only hope the General and I are like that in our upper years.
We left early afternoon the next day after farm fresh eggs and recently slaughtered bacon from the butcher up the road. Amazing. We sat and talked some more and hit the lake one more time. I was amazed at how far out I could walk (about 200 feet) and not have to worry about the current. While the love of the lake will always be in my soul, my heart lies in the ocean now. I’ll take my rolling waves and salt water over a lake. Never thought that would happen!
Mom and I headed to our next adventure: Frankenmuth, Michigan. It’s this cute little tourist town of German culture – shops, german family restaurants with chicken recipes that will make your mouth water. Mom and I walked around and eventually ended up at one of their flagship stores, Bronner’s – a store that has wall to wall Christmas stuff – and it’s as big as 2.5 football fields. Oh yeah! As someone who suffers from OBD, Ornament Buying Disorder, this place is like a keg party to an alcoholic. It’s a Christian run organization, slightly expensive, but it has everything Christmas. Seriously. There were even bulbs hailing my medical profession! You can order stuff online, too — that was information I probably didn’t need to know. I have 3 new bulbs this year to hang on the tree — and I have a feeling there might be more.
After Frankenmuth, we hightailed it back to the Motor City burbs. The next day was the day I had been waiting for all week.
Mom and I went back to her hometown: Grosse Pointe. For those of you familiar with Wilmington, Grosse Pointe is like the more affluent older brother of the Mayfaire/Landfall area. These people had money. And extremely large boats. And manicured lawns that would make a Landfall member green with jealously. It was 30 years since Mom had been there – and 30 for me too. I was an infant the last time I was there. My mom was born here and moved away in 1972, in her early 20’s, as my grandparents relocated to the burbs because of work and my grandfather’s heart health. We parked the car on her old street by the house and walked around the neighborhood as Mom pointed out things as she relived her childhood memories. We grabbed lunch at a local cafe, went down by her old high school, grabbed wine down at “The Hill” – the cute shopping district. We also stopped at the church where my ancestors worshiped: everyone on the line I am researching had this church mentioned in their obituary. While it was closed and the lady who did all the historical stuff was gone for the week, the kind gentleman cutting the lawn gave us a church directory. Inside, it has the brother and sister from one of the branches I was looking for!!! Sure enough, they’re still in the area and I have addresses and phone numbers. I am going to write them and include a early 1900’s picture of her grandparents with her dad as a baby. Next on my list is to contact the lady who runs the historical records – she’s in her 90’s and may have even known some of my great grand aunts and uncles!
The best part of the trip was saved for last. Just as we were about to leave GP (as I affectionally call it now), we drove one more time by the house my mom grew up in. We watched it for a long time.
“Let’s knock on the door and see if they’ll let us in,” I said, seeing as how the garage my grandfather built was open with a car inside.
“No, we can’t do that!” My mom said. “They won’t let us in.”
“Come on, let’s try,” I replied. “Worse they can do is tell us to shove off and slam the door in our face. We won’t be back here – let’s do it!”
“I’m not comfortable with doing that.”
“Alright, let’s head out.”
Just as she has clicked her seatbelt, an SUV turned into the driveway. “Let’s go,” was all Mom said and she lept out of the car. I quickly followed.
A beautiful twentysomething stepped out of the SUV and Mom introduced herself as someone who used to live here. “Would you like to come in?” she asked. Would we?! YES!
And just like that I got to walk into the house my mother was born in. The girl, Mel, introduced us to her mom, Dar, who was in the house. They ushered us through the house, detailing what was redone and what was still original. My mom chatted away, pointing out things, asking questions. A lot had changed. The ground floor master bedroom had an addition put on it and was now a TV room. The new master bedroom took up the entire 2nd floor (it was originally a bedroom with a half bath where my uncle had his room). It was huge. My mom’s room that she shared with her sister was now Mel’s room. The bathroom had the tile my grandfather put in — it’s quite retro — but very nice. The living room and dinning room have remained untouched as it was when Mom lived there. The basement still had the tile and the “bar” my grandfather put in – the bar isn’t very big nor attractive and they plan to take it out eventually, as with the tile. The fruit cellar is now a bathroom. I got a picture of the fireplace – only because I have a picture of my grandmother standing by it on my mantle. Here’s a look:
It’s not quite the same angle, but it still made my heart skip a beat. I didn’t take too
pictures of the house, just the common rooms, as I felt a bit weird snapping pictures of someone’s private residence. They were so kind to allow us to indulge in such nostalgia. I sent them a letter thanking them and included the picture of my grandmother seen above. Not only did I want to thank them for making my mom’s summer, but I wanted to prove to them Mom actually lived there and we weren’t casing the place.
Amazing! We just kept saying, “Can you believe we did that!?” for the rest of the night. So awesome, my mom was so happy about it. We celebrated our genealogy successes and toasted our amazing trip at this great Mediterranean place in Northville, Le George. The food was amazing, even thought the menu was hard to read — so many words I had never heard before — but the waitress explained everything so perfectly! Dinner was fabulous, a chicken dish with perfect spices; it summed up our trip perfectly.
Saturday morning came too soon as I boarded a plan in Detroit bound for Myrtle Beach and a $50 parking tab. Ugh.
So much research is ahead of me and I am so thankful I did this trip with Mom. Not only did she spoil me rotten, but we have these amazing memories that will keep us smiling for the rest of our lives.